Archives for October 2014

Making Time for Being Still

How Did We Get to a State of Desperate Motion, and How Do We Stop?



Copyright: Shutterstock, Inc.

A friend shared a post called, “The Lost Practice of Resting One Day Each Week”. Sounds great, right? It explains how doctors, executives, trainers, clergy, yogis, EVERYONE agrees that rest is essential to your well-being.

I get it. I mother-hen sick friends, urging them to take a break and let their bodies fight the sickness. And I’m also a big sleep advocate – I feel my best if I get eight hours or more. So why is it so difficult to rest from work? If you sit down on Sunday afternoon, are you thinking about laundry, what to make for dinner during the week and your work to-do list? Maybe that’s too girly, so what about mowing the lawn, replacing the cracked doorframe and then work? Or can you let go?

Even while reading that post, I was racing ahead: “I don’t have time to read this long post! I need to get to the tips on how to rest!” This stopped me in my tracks:

You are not a victim of your time demands. You are the creator and acceptor of them.

That will make you think. I can’t remember the last weekend I didn’t at minimum check my email. Almost every day, one of my first waking thoughts is, “What do I need to be worrying about?” I KNOW I’m creating my time demands, and this makes me see how lame it is that I’m feeling sorry for myself because I can’t manage them. Acknowledging you have a problem is the first step, right?

Step one: My husband and I bought a patio set so we have a nice place to sit in the back yard with a cocktail, talk about our day and enjoy the evening. Before the patio set, he would come home and watch TV while I made dinner, and our conversation would get lost. So now we have that little slice of sitting still.

Step two: I hired someone to help with the business. I want to trade Sunday work for Sunday rest. I haven’t completely let go of weekend work yet, but I’m getting there.

What portion of your time demands do you want to trade, and how are you going to do it? Have you found rest? How did you get there? I don’t know if we can transition from the frenetic society we’ve created, but the benefits of rest are too great to ignore. Even talking about it helps, so please share!